----BEGIN CLASS---- [09:30] #startclass [09:30] Roll Call [09:30] Kushal Das [09:30] Piyush Aggarwal [09:30] Sourabh Deshmukh [09:30] Anwesha [09:30] Priyanka Saggu [09:30] Pradhvan Bisht [09:30] Jason Braganza [09:30] Rahul Jha [09:30] Bhavin Gandhi [09:30] Aman Verma [09:31] Kuntal Majumder [09:31] jasonbraganza, the stage is yours [09:31] hello folks [09:31] good afternoon! [09:32] this here is a blank canvas we might use https://pad.riseup.net/p/LT-Time-Management-keep [09:32] Bhavesh Gupta [09:32] Manav Sethi [09:32] like for instance could you all access that pad and type in your ages anonymously [09:33] Nabarun Pal [09:33] Jagannathan Tiruvallur Eachambadi [09:34] ok thank you [09:34] it’ll just help me tailor the next couple of hours [09:34] to you more specifically [09:34] we mostly have twens like they say in Germany [09:35] so welcome [09:35] i don’t know if we will go on for three hours [09:35] Surbhi Sharma [09:35] that basically was a kind of hurdle i put in place [09:35] to only get interested folk [09:36] not that i am averse to it [09:36] once we get to qa, i have no issues for as long as it takes today evening [09:36] why do i get to talk to you about time management? [09:37] because i am seen as old and wise here XD [09:37] but nevertheless i am still happy for the chance to do this [09:37] because i *do* know somethings [09:37] mostly learnt from the school of hard knocks [09:37] i am a practitioner [09:37] i still struggle [09:38] but i would venture to say, i am in a better place timewise, then most of you. [09:38] so i want to pull you up to my level [09:38] how many of you were at my handle your money session? [09:38] me [09:38] me [09:38] me [09:38] me [09:39] me [09:39] any one remember off hand how long ago that was? [09:39] Me [09:39] me [09:39] 6-7 months? [09:39] anyway [09:39] around june or july last year [09:39] my question being, to you who replied [09:39] yes some 7-8 months before. [09:40] has your life changed materially because of what i shared that day [09:40] have i made a difference to your lives? [09:41] yes, I took an active role in how much I was saving and the percentage which was going into repaying loans and expenses [09:41] I have a server for me, :) [09:41] so this is my aim with today’s session too [09:41] Materially: no. Because I only started making money recently. But, I now put in a lot more conscious effort and planning into managing my finances. [09:42] if even a single one of you, walks out with one idea that changes your life, i will consider it a success [09:42] I do actually keep some of my earnings every month to a safety deposit. :) [09:42] yes, it did. I saved for multiple things and have a better organised system now. [09:42] RJ722, that i conseder a raging success [09:42] :) [09:42] so [09:42] lets move on [09:43] somebody go get the links to intention and margin off my blog and put them here please [09:43] because that is what it will all start with :) [09:43] so here’s my question [09:43] https://janusworx.com/on-intention.html [09:44] https://janusworx.com/on-intention.html [09:44] if a robber runs up to you, brandishing a knife, or a gun and says, give it all up? what do you value? your money or your life? [09:44] what would your answer be? [09:44] https://janusworx.com/on-margin/ [09:45] of course life. [09:45] life! [09:45] Life! [09:45] jasonbraganza, it depends in my cas. [09:45] hahahahaha [09:45] case [09:45] Life [09:45] kushal, in your case it will still be life, unless someone asks you your ideals or your life :) [09:46] but yes [09:46] life is what we choose [09:46] Money vs life: life! [09:46] and this is a curious case of domain blindness [09:46] our jobs [09:46] and other things [09:46] keep asking us to give more and more of our live [09:46] and we willingly hand it over without a thought [09:47] It is LIFE always (I have experienced it) [09:47] no one thinks of life as the little day to day moments [09:47] here’s another thought to ponder [09:47] most of you are at just the right age for this example [09:47] you start at 20 [09:47] and die at 70 [09:48] that is your adult life [09:48] so all you get are 75000 mornings [09:48] that is it [09:48] i urge you to put some thought into what you choose to do with each morning, with each day [09:48] wow that is a short time when you look at that this way ' [09:49] life on autopilot is not fun [09:49] you all already know that [09:49] or you would not be here [09:49] so i want to spend a little time on these basics [09:49] if you want to learn to manage time [09:49] jasonbraganza, with 75000 mornings, one has to live 205 years [09:50] christ [09:50] sorry [09:50] and even that insaanimanav thougt was less XD [09:50] 25000 mornings :) [09:50] 18250, to be exact 😅 [09:50] s/75000/18250 [09:51] brute4s99, as an adult :) [09:51] seeing your life expectancy down by a thid is not that much fun is it? [09:51] jasonbraganza no its not [09:51] and that wos a typo [09:51] imagine you, just living your life [09:51] day [09:51] to [09:51] day [09:51] and suddenly four months have passed [09:52] what will you do with the rest of your year? :) [09:52] so here’s a thought experiment [09:52] you say you want to manage time [09:53] what will you *do* with the time you get? [09:53] write it here [09:53] learn new stuff , tinker more [09:53] or put it in the pad if you want to stay anonymous [09:54] read more, get more serious about dutch, bake when I finally get an oven [09:54] explore more experiences [09:54] some is attempting to write, tough to think off [09:54] all the stuff i am going to suggest [09:54] will require thinking and some unpleasant work [09:55] and you need to *think* [09:55] to be intentional about what it is that you want from your life [09:55] this is your first assignment in the eve when you start [09:55] read my articles on margin and intention which RJ722 and bhavin192 have graciously share [09:56] and think about what it is that you want [09:56] and then write that down and keep it somewhere prominent [09:56] so that you will keep looking at it [09:56] and the journey won’t seem that bad [09:57] some one wrote i don’t know. [09:57] that is ok, but think about it [09:57] i’m sure you have somewhere to be, some place to go, something you want out of life. [09:58] WRITE THAT SHIT DOWN [09:58] so the only thing i will ask of you is that each of you learn to meditate. [09:59] give it 5-10 minutes a day [09:59] that is all [09:59] Human freedom involves our capacity to pause between the stimulus and response and, in that pause, to choose the one response toward which we wish to throw our weight. The capacity to create ourselves, based upon this freedom, is inseparable from consciousness or self-awareness. — Rollo May [09:59] and this is why i want you to do so ^ [09:59] to exercise that muscle [10:00] peanutduck, does adding 0.0.0.0 www.facebook.com to /etc/hosts block or allow facebok [10:00] ? [10:00] so that when life rushes at you tomorrow, your mind is skilled enough to go hold on, hold on, let's think this through [10:00] zleap, there is a session going on, please ask in dm. [10:00] zleap: a session is going on. We can continue this later. [10:00] sorry [10:01] beacuse if you cannot stop and think during the critical moments in your life, you are done for [10:01] i share the case of a mentee of mine [10:01] he was offered a jok [10:01] he did not think [10:01] blindly said yes [10:02] and is now (thankfully temporarily) a really low paid intern [10:02] or interview pressure, we need you to sign this today [10:02] learn to have the fortitude to push things to the limit [10:02] and that can only come if you meditate daily [10:03] sandeepk is not around [10:03] or i would have gently teased him about his superhero meditation session [10:04] sorry about that delay [10:05] i might have to pop out for 5 minutes in a while something unavoidable has come up [10:05] i apologise [10:05] so you don’t need an hour long meditation session [10:05] just 5-20 minutes a day [10:05] is good [10:05] that same skill, is also going to help you focus [10:06] i have two mails who both say they cannot [10:06] this is your answer [10:06] meditate. [10:06] it will increase your ability to focus [10:06] ! [10:06] next [10:07] jasonbraganza: any particular way in which meditation has to be carried forward? [10:07] ! [10:07] RJ722, later [10:07] ! [10:07] next [10:07] next [10:07] pushing things to limit, doesn't that sound like procrastination? [10:07] also hold your questions for later [10:07] ideal time for meditation ? [10:07] sorry, :( [10:07] hellozee, no worries [10:07] that was a general thing [10:08] hellozee, i am sending you a job offer tat you need some time to process [10:08] probably a day or two [10:08] the hr exec says they need an answer in the next 4 hours [10:08] is that procrastination? [10:08] no [10:09] and i have to go. be back in 10! [10:09] really sorry folks [10:09] but chill a while :) [10:09] and let it all sink in [10:09] jasonbraganza: no worries. we'll wait. thank you for doing this! :) [10:09] jasonbraganza, its okay [10:09] I guess until we can think about all the truth bombs jasonbraganza [10:15] I guess, now that we have some time, I can chime in and take over the stage to show you folks this -- https://ncase.me/mental-health/ [10:16] Biggest takeaway was that if you are trying to start a new habit (like meditation), don't plan for a time window greater than 5-10 mins initially. Keep it as low as possible. [10:17] Second was, having a WHEN->THEN strategy, e.g., "After showering, I would meditate for 5 mins" is better than "I would meditate for 5 mins today" [10:18] Another great learning: It takes a long time to form a habit. Only push from smaller time to larger windows much later. It takes, on average, 66 days of continous work to form a habbit. (see blog for more details) [10:19] That's all from my side. Hope it helps! [10:20] RJ722: Thank you :) [10:20] RJ722: thank you for the summary [10:21] RJ722: thanks, that article has some nice points, :D [10:21] back [10:21] hello hello people! [10:22] so plan your life with intention [10:22] i want to do this in 6 months [10:22] and go there in 5 [10:22] and be at the top of the heap in 10 [10:23] it does not matter what [10:23] SET A DIRECTION [10:23] it’s not like all those goals are set in stone anyway [10:23] you can change them [10:23] but not on a whim [10:23] rocket man today [10:24] janitor tomorrow [10:24] doctor day after [10:24] like my 5 year old niece [10:24] do what you have to, with some thought put in to it [10:24] am i here? [10:25] folk just say hello [10:25] Yes [10:25] hello [10:25] Hello, hello [10:25] aah ok [10:25] yes [10:25] hello [10:25] hi [10:25] Hello, I clicked on leave by mistake [10:25] hello [10:25] Hello :) [10:25] hello! [10:25] everyone else please stop. [10:26] jasonbraganza, please continue. [10:29] ok i am back [10:29] of course this has to happen on a day that i talk about time management XD [10:29] if this happens again, just give me 10 and i will switch isps and machines [10:29] so where was i? [10:30] yes intention [10:30] set goels [10:30] and plan them [10:30] it costs nothing to plan [10:30] and once something like a plan takes shape, you are motivated a lot more, to give it importance [10:30] and work at it [10:33] darn it [10:33] ok new machine [10:33] backup internet [10:33] hope this holds :) [10:33] what was the last thing you folks read? [10:34] and work at it [10:34] aah ok [10:34] Abby and I planned for 3 cities over a week in Europe to fulfill our bucket list [10:35] it took us two years, but the plan we did and re did [10:35] succeeded spectacularly [10:35] we did 5 *countries* in a month [10:36] so there! :) [10:36] once you have a plan, you can then start taking small steps [10:36] and do it [10:36] this part every one is familiar with [10:36] the thing most people do not have is feedback and review [10:37] make sure that when you work towards your goals, you keep getting feedback from your plan [10:37] and make sure you keep reviewing it regularly [10:38] that will keep you on track [10:38] an example would be my goal to lose weight [10:38] who reads my weekly fitblr posts on mastodon? [10:38] me [10:38] me [10:39] so the scale does not lie [10:39] that is feedback [10:39] you ate this much [10:39] you exercised that much [10:39] this is the result [10:39] or code [10:39] you miss a semicolon [10:39] åhat is immedi [10:39] sorry [10:40] the code does not compile [10:40] immediate feedback [10:40] so look for feedback in everything you work at [10:40] and keep reviewing like i do [10:40] is this working [10:40] are we on track [10:40] do we need to change things [10:40] with me so far? [10:41] ! [10:41] later RJ722 :) [10:41] either write them all down or put them in that pad [10:41] goes to all you folks [10:42] we’ll break at 4.30 for 5 and i'll answer questions then [10:42] pay with money or time? [10:42] did you folks get that? [10:42] or did the internet eat those lines up? [10:43] earlier? [10:43] (we got it) [10:43] aah ok [10:43] internet . [10:43] so just to reiterate [10:43] you pay with money [10:43] or you pay with time [10:43] in life, you always pay [10:44] so be intentional about how you spend your time [10:44] if it is something not important [10:44] see if you can spend the money and delegate it off [10:44] of course, when we start out, we all pay with time :) [10:44] so that is what money is for. [10:44] to save you time [10:45] to do the things you want to do [10:45] boredom is another point i want to highlight [10:45] be ok with being bored [10:45] be ok with slogging [10:46] meditation should help develop this too [10:46] if you are always chasing the new shiny, you will always be circling the drain [10:46] never getting anything of worth done [10:46] Motivation [10:46] who looks for motivation to do work here? [10:47] no one! such a good bunch! [10:47] i used to be motivated [10:47] Here, as in? [10:47] in this channel :) [10:48] so i would get super motivated [10:48] do stuff [10:48] lose motivation [10:48] then be motivated to do something else [10:48] and on and on [10:48] never got anything done [10:48] > if you are always chasing the new shiny <- I have been avoiding this for the last 6 months or so [10:48] be ok with boredom [10:48] be ok with doing the work slowly [10:49] build habits [10:49] motivation does not last [10:49] but habits do [10:49] i get up every morning [10:49] go weigh myself [10:49] defrost the fridge [10:49] write in kushal's best thing journal [10:49] do my french review [10:49] hit the potty [10:49] brew [10:50] coffee [10:50] sit to study [10:50] i stacked these habits [10:50] slowly [10:50] one on top of the other [10:50] even with studies [10:50] i started with 30 minutes of focussed work [10:50] and would then struggle [10:51] but this builds on itslef [10:51] i cannot program for long because i have not put in the work [10:51] but i can study now for 7 hours straight with two breaks thrown in [10:51] like kushal keeps teaching me. [10:51] slow and steady wints [10:51] wins [10:52] to get stuff done [10:52] make it a habit [10:52] tactics can always change [10:52] but the principles above dont [10:53] learn to meditate - have goals - plan for them - work at them - have feedback and review [10:53] two more important principles [10:53] have margin [10:53] and have optionality [10:53] everywhere [10:54] read the on margin article for that [10:54] what i mean [10:54] is build slack into your life [10:54] no need to live paycheck to paycheck [10:54] no need to have back to back meetings [10:54] put in cushions in terms of time and money into every single thing you do [10:55] iike i thought i would be done by now. [10:55] and i still budgeted 3 hours [10:55] thank god i did! [10:55] optionality means look for options every where you go [10:56] i don't have to do this, what else can i do [10:56] i dont buy a non refundable tickte. i want the option to cancel it at any time [10:56] any one stuck with non refundable tickets ath this time? [10:56] ouch if you do :) [10:57] and be ok with things failing [10:57] be ok with thing falling [10:57] be ok with not being able to do things [10:57] the important thing [10:57] is to just dust yourself off [10:57] think of it as violent feedback [10:57] :) [10:58] review what happened [10:58] and then decide your next action [10:58] all with me so far? [10:58]